As my practice focuses on the dropping of armor in order to live more vulnerable, connected, and satisfying lives, I have a strong commitment to working with men in particular. While men and women alike have been fed destructive myths regarding vulnerability, the differential impact on the development of boys and men is especially alarming. Historically, the socialization of boys has included an active and unapologetic process of encouraging them to disengage from their hearts. The directives are clear and powerful – “Buck up,” “Don’t be a pussy,” “Stop crying,” “Be strong.” And yet, at the same time, men in this century are now being asked to show up emotionally to their relationships and families and to be connecting and intimate. The inherent double bind is obvious and it often keeps men stuck and prone to a myriad of addictions and distractions. Destructive coping mechanisms then of course fuel further disconnection and pain.
In my work with men, I strive to break down and demystify the skills necessary for intimacy and emotional closeness as they strive to reconnect with their hearts. Women have long benefited from the many places and spaces in which we have been able to cultivate and enjoy the gifts of vulnerability without shame or judgement. It’s now time for men to enjoy the same freedom and rewards. Men cannot live wholehearted lives until they reclaim their ability to sit with their buried feelings and locked up fears.
Much of this work includes a rebalancing of the masculine and feminine energies afforded to us all. To lead intimate and connected lives, we are all required to show up knowing what the moment requires of us and to confidently offer it up. Men are encouraged to forsake the feminine, but when they do, intimacy, connection, and joy are made impossible. Learning how to utilize the feminine strengths of vulnerability, empathy, compassion, and authenticity is precisely what brings men into the true power of their masculinity.
I work with men individually, in couples, and in groups. I encourage you to contact me to discuss what option might be best for you.